Kathy sat back down, putting the tickets on the table. "This is why I'm always asking for boundaries," she said. "So I don't run face first into them."

But everyone was always 'I don't have any!' or 'whatever's good for you is fine for me' and then, surprise, it turned out to be not true at all.

"So, no. I don't understand. I would like you to please explain so I do."